In their article on Bodily Integrity Identity Disorder (BIID) Neil Levy and Timothy Bayne discuss gender reassignment as analogous to wanting a limb amputated. While discussing the accuracy of this analogy is another post altogether, I was shocked at what they had to say about transsexuals. Keep in mind this article is fairly recent (2005). They write:
One might think that the desire for cosmetic surgery (and gender-reassignment surgery) is more problematic than the desire for amputation. Men who believe they are really women ‘trapped in a man’s body’ – and the overwhelming majority of transsexuals are male-to-female – typically reinforce a stereotyped view of femininity, and contribute, however unwittingly and obliquely, to gender inequality. The essential woman they seek to be is weak and helpless, obsessed by appearance, and so on.
Wow. Where to begin? First of all it’s simply empirically FALSE that the “overwhelming majority” of transsexuals are male-to-female. Where did they get that statistic from? It seems like they simply pulled it out of their asses. Looking at any recent literature clearly shows that the ratio is more like 1:1.
Second, where is the evidence that trans women “typically” are stereotypically feminine? Or that they desire to be weak and helpless and are “obsessed by appearance”? Research has actually been done on this question and it turns out that MTF transsexuals are no more likely to be feminine in their gender expression or behavior than cis women. There is a huge diversity in the gender expression of trans women and this idea that trans women are shallow weak creatures obsessed with looks is a majorly distorted picture based on biased media depictions. The true reality is that trans women are a diverse population and any generalizations are bound to fail for the same reason it would be wrong to say cis women are weak and helpless and obsessed with appearance. Neil and Levy should be ashamed of themselves for being so uncritical in their acceptance of false stereotypes about trans people. It saddens me that this is a PUBLISHED paper and went through the peer review process.
Third, Neil and Levy misgender trans women by saying they are “men” who merely “believe” they are women instead of the more accurate description which is that trans women are women who moved away from their assigned sex at birth which was male on the basis of their genitals. Trans women are not men. Repeat that. Trans women are not men.
In this post I am going to try and articulate some of my thoughts about the concept of “going stealth” in transgender communities. To go 100% stealth effectively means not having anyone know you are trans. Deep stealth is actively taking steps to erase evidence of your pre-transition self and construct a new history for yourself (“When I was a little girl/boy…”). If stealth is your goal, then you will transition differently than if you decide to not go stealth. You will not announce on Facebook that you are trans. You will likely move to a new city where you know nobody. You will cut off your past life entirely. Any reference to yourself as your former you must be destroyed or hidden, including family photos. If people ask if you are trans, you will say no. You will construct a new medical history. At doctor’s appointments you will answer questions about your medical history in a carefully constructed fashion so as to not reveal yourself as trans unless absolutely necessary. You might actively avoid telling the truth to your friends. You might tell outright lies to avoid outing yourself as trans. The deepest of deep stealth might not even tell their lovers or significant others. They might actively lie to their partners to maintain stealth.
That’s deep stealth in a nutshell as I understand it. In reality people might go stealth to different degrees in different contexts but for the sake of argument I want to work with the idea of “deep stealth” even if that’s not necessarily reflective of people who actually do consider themselves stealth or wanting to be stealth.
Before I begin a philosophical analysis of stealth I want to preface by saying these thoughts reflect my own experience and opinions and are not meant to be judgmental about people who decide to go stealth (though I realize it is going to inevitably come off as judgmental). I want to be able to morally evaluate stealth without calling into question the moral character of people who decide to go stealth. I want to evaluate stealth as an action type and not judge individual people, who have their own reasons to go stealth and the right to exercise their autonomy in that respect.
However, I am interested in whether the decision to go stealth is a decision that a virtuous person would decide to make. Is stealth virtuous or not? Is it morally praiseworthy or blameworthy? Or is it neither? Or does it boil down to the qualifier “it depends”? I think it’s inevitable that the decision to go stealth will involve some form of overt lying – I’m just going to assume that for the sake of argument. The question is whether this lying is justified. Many philosophers think that white lies are permissible because of the underlying good intentions as well as the good consequences for everyone involved. So there are probably scenarios in which lying is permissible. The question is whether stealth is one of these scenarios.
We can ask – does it hurt the person who is stealth and does it hurt the person who is being lied to? I think it’s clear that for the most part the people who are deciding to go stealth seem to gain psychological well-being from going stealth. So it’s not hurting them to be stealth although I do wonder if whether people are are deep stealth undergo anxiety about being outed or whether they are so stealth they never have to worry about being outed. But let’s just assume that stealth people know what’s in their own best interest when they decide to go stealth.
So the remaining question is whether being stealth harms other people in some way. Does being lied to about whether someone is trans or cis count as a harm? On the one hand, I can see the argument going “Well it’s none of their business;. It’s a private medical issue and no one has the right to know the private medical information of someone else if that someone else doesn’t want to disclose that information, especially if they wouldn’t feel safe disclosing that information or if disclosing that information would trigger dysphoria or discomfort or whatever. So if someone doesn’t disclose private medical information that’s not ‘lying’.People who are stealth just want to live their lives as normal people without everyone thinking they are unusual or weird because they had an endocrinological disorder when they were younger. Trans people have the right to shed the label of trans if they so wish and there is nothing secretive or dishonest about exercising that desire.”
So I do think that being stealth is compatible with being virtuous.
But stealth is not something I personally aim for. For me it was helpful to know that there were openly trans people out there living amazing lives and doing amazing things. If I hadn’t known about these trans people I perhaps never would have decided that transition was something that I could actually accomplish. That openness and honesty was something that helped push me towards greater self-actualization and self-acceptance – a huge net positive in my life. And if I am happier then I think I have a greater chance of making others happier as well – to live my life in an openly authentic manner is surely likely to have a greater net effect on other people. If I am not stealth then perhaps my openness and my honesty would help bring greater awareness to a highly marginalized group. I could use my privilege as a white person with a middle-class background and academic education with a social platform to stand on as an aspiring university professor to possibly make marginalized people’s lives better. If that happens to even one person then my decision to not go stealth would be justified.
I’m a 5th year philosophy grad student and recently discovered I am transgendered, specifically transfeminine. I’ll be getting more into what that means as this blog progresses. For now I just want to write a quick introduction and test out this new wordpress blog.
I want this blog to be a testimony of what it will be like as an academic philosopher starting to making a transition to living as a woman. I want to document the trials and tribulations as well as the joys and successes. I’d like to post and discuss research and articles or videos related to transgenderism and generally make this blog both autobiographical and educational. I will also share whatever tips or advice I come across for mtf trans people.
This blog will just be one narrative. I won’t pretend to speak for all trans people. I can only speak for myself. But I have a voice and I want to make it heard. Thank you allowing me to express myself.
Ok I don’t have a lot to say for this first post but stick around more will be sure to follow!